may seem like the next natural step in your sexual growth and development. But no
matter where you consider yourself in terms of sexual maturity and experience, or
what kind of sexual stuff you do or plan on doing, sex is something that comes
with personal responsibility and feelings.
is different. Regardless of whether you’re thinking about having sex for the
first time, or engaging in a sexual relationship for the umpteenth time,
consider the following before deciding whether or not you’re ready:
How do I know if I'm ready for sex?Emotional Risks:
- Are you doing this for the right reasons?
- Do you feel pressured into doing this?
- Do you expect having sex to change your level of commitment to each other? If so, how do you feel about that? What if that doesn’t happen?
- Is having sex okay with your personal values and beliefs?
Your relationship with your partner:
- Have you and your partner gotten checked recently for STDs?
- What if having sex with your partner isn’t what you expect?
- Have you/your partner talked about/agreed about using birth control?
- Are you ready for the possibility of pregnancy? Have you talked to you partner about what you will do if that happens?
- How will you feel if the relationship ends after having sex?
- What do you want out of this relationship?
- Have you talked to your partner about where you are in the relationship and what you expect from each other?
Reasons people choose not to have sex
sex is a personal choice. You should never feel pressured into having sex if
you don’t want to.
abstain from having sex for many reasons – some, for personal, cultural, or
religious reasons; others, only for a period of time or in a certain situation,
such as getting over a bad breakup, getting over a serious illness or injury,
or wanting to be in a committed relationship beforehand.
it’s not the right time, person, or set of circumstances, or you’re just not
feeling it, then you shouldn’t go ahead with it.
of personal responsibility means staying true to yourself and your own
What is masturbation?
Masturbation is touching, stroking, rubbing, or
massaging one’s genitals for sexual arousal and/or orgasm. Some women also use
a vibrator or sex toy to masturbate. It’s a way to explore your body, relieve
sexual tension, and achieve sexual pleasure.
is common and normal, and you shouldn’t feel embarrassed. Almost everyone
masturbates at some point in their lives, and for most adults it’s a lifelong
masturbation is a no-risk sexual behaviour: you can avoid pregnancy and STDs,
and it can also be used as foreplay with a partner.
only a problem when it interferes with your daily life, is done in public, or
interferes with your sexual activity with a partner.
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